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May 12, 2009

It seems people can be of two minds. On one side, you have the people who invite everyone to everything. This practice requires trust that the invited will not feel obligated to say yes (or you have to really like everyone). On the other side, you have the people who only invite people who would want to accept. This habit requires nerves of steel when the uninvited begin to feel slighted. And then there’s the area that’s on the fence. When everyone’s implicitly invited because no one is explicitly invited.

It gets a bit gray if your invitees begin inviting others. This is great when you’re doing the “invite everyone” thing. The more the merrier, and I always like to meet new people. This is terrible if you only invited a select few. The terribleness is lessened if the newly invited are good friends with everyone included, but usually it’s just awkward. Rule of thumb: don’t do it, unless you’re bringing someone who is indisputably awesome.

And when you’re not invited (or so you think), that’s just how things roll sometimes. Maybe space is limited. Maybe you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Maybe you didn’t answer your phone. Maybe you’re not on the list that night. Who cares? Everyone can make their own plans.

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